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What's the best way to break bad news to children?

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Children are very resilient and can take bad news in their stride. However tell them in language they can understand. It may be the death of a family pet? Don't tell them the pet has gone on a holiday because they will expect the pet to return. They do not need all the gory details either just matter of factly tell them the animal was ill or elderly as the case may be and you can use the word 'died'. Children will not understand 'died' if everyone tries to cushion the blow too much. You can tell them you are sad too and let them see you grieve.
Slowly. Gently talk to them about it. Sometimes you'll get lucky and they'll ask if something bad happened. Then it's easier to let them know.

Kids don't always believe you. It can take time for a harsh reality to kick in.
Gently, but straight. Don't beat about the bush, or try to mask things.
Although children need to learn the truth, bad news should be passed on gently and with love. How much you want to say will probably also depend on the age of the child. If you're a spiritual person or religious, you'll maybe want to express the news in a way that reflects your beliefs as well.

If you're lost for words, there are some very good books for children in many libraries that focus on topics such as death, dying (as in terminal diseases), separation / divorce and other bad news. Some well-written young adult fiction also touches on these topics and can be a good way for teenagers to get their head around some of life's painful inevitabilities.
Children are very resilient and can take bad news in their stride. However tell them in language they can understand. It may be the death of a family pet? Don't tell them the pet has gone on a holiday because they will expect the pet to return. They do not need all the gory details either just matter of factly tell them the animal was ill or elderly as the case may be and you can use the word 'died'. Children will not understand 'died' if everyone tries to cushion the blow too much. You can tell them you are sad too and let them see you grieve.
Children are very resilient and can take bad news in their stride. However tell them in language they can understand. It may be the death of a family pet? Don't tell them the pet has gone on a holiday because they will expect the pet to return. They do not need all the gory details either just matter of factly tell them the animal was ill or elderly as the case may be and you can use the word 'died'. Children will not understand 'died' if everyone tries to cushion the blow too much. You can tell them you are sad too and let them see you grieve.
Children are very resilient and can take bad news in their stride. However tell them in language they can understand. It may be the death of a family pet? Don't tell them the pet has gone on a holiday because they will expect the pet to return. They do not need all the gory details either just matter of factly tell them the animal was ill or elderly as the case may be and you can use the word 'died'. Children will not understand 'died' if everyone tries to cushion the blow too much. You can tell them you are sad too and let them see you grieve.
This is a hard one, I have had to do it in a smaller version.
Be:
Very calm...very gentle...and loving.
Be ready for questions, and don't say too much in a way, that may bring on even more questions.
That makes it then a info overload.
Stay with the child...don't move away too soon.Very hard one to deal with.
Each child is different, but using gentle love, is the key.
Don't say any more than you need too.
Gently, easily and slowly. Tears can be a giveaway too.
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